I’ve been reading a lot of blog posts lately about spoiling your kids. Some of which have been written by bloggers that I really enjoy. All of the recent blog posts I’ve read on this subject bring up some very valid points about obedience, but here’s the thing for every mother out there who is actually spoiling her child there is another mother out there that worries needlessly she’s spoiling her child. These posts have the potential to make some mothers feel guilty, when not spoiling our children isn’t even the ultimate goal of parenting
This is especially true in the Christian community. We worry (even though we shouldn’t) that we will somehow not teach our children proper obedience, and then when they’re older they won’t obey God. We worry that if our children aren’t immediately obeying us by the time they are 4, 3, 2, or I read one blog post that says children should be immediately obeying by 18 months (!) that we’ve somehow grievously failed them and they will never accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.
We worry that if our child has a behavior on the “your child might be spoiled if….” lists then our parenting is all for naught. Let me encourage you for a moment to forget the lists, forget the blog posts, and consider what the Word of God has to say on child-rearing.
As far as blog posts and “your child might be spoiled if….” lists go, consider this: Every mother has different goals. I have not taught my three year old how to buckle herself into her car-seat but according to one list if my three year old can’t buckle herself into a car-seat then she’s spoiled, when in reality I just don’t want her to pinch her fingers. But to the mother who wrote the blog post this was an important thing to teach her three year olds and she expected them to do it.
Here’s the thing about all those lists, you could still have a child that demonstrates “spoiled” behavior even if you’re doing everything right as a parent. God himself had the first 2 children (Adam and Eve) rebel against him and he was the only perfect parent in existence. Our children have sin natures! A rebellious child is not necessarily a reflection on parenting.
Our children’s sin nature aside, it is possible to raise a child without regret or worry and tomorrow, we’ll talk about how. I wanted to put all my thoughts into one post, but I wound up writing nearly 1000 words, a big blogger no-no : ) Today’s post isn’t complete without tomorrow’s so I invite you to subscribe so you don’t miss it.
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