Yesterday I talked about the rash of “spoiling” posts I’ve seen lately, and although valid how they might be causing some mothers to worry needlessly about their parenting.
Our greatest goal as a parent should not be immediate obedience by the time a child is 18 months, potty training by 2, no whining by 3, no yelling by 4 etc. Our greatest goal as a parent should be that our children will one day choose Christ as Lord and Savior and love Him with all their hearts. Now is obedience an important key in this? Yes of course, but instead of stressing over whether or not our children are spoiled consider the following.
As a parent you have the ultimate source of wisdom, and it isn’t blog posts. God promises in his word that if we need wisdom all we need to do is ask and he will give it to us liberally without upbraiding (reproaching) us. God will give you wisdom for your specific situation if you ask, period. Will he sometimes use blog posts, maybe, but I think sometimes as Christian moms (and dads) we sometimes put too much emphasis on what other parent’s think rather than what the Word of God says on a particular issue. Go to the Word, and go to God in prayer first, seek advice second. Oh, and then test the advice against scripture.
God desires your success as a parent even more than you do. Remember how I said the true measure of parenting success is not that your child isn’t spoiled rather that they come to know salvation, well God desires your child’s salvation even more than you do! It’s Gods will that none should perish but all should come into repentance. When you ask God for help and wisdom in your parenting and pray for your children’s salvation you are praying in the will of God. And praying in the will of God is a powerful thing.
Ultimately spoiling your children doesn’t matter. I can have the most well behaved child in the universe who is destined for hell as an adult if they don’t have Christ in their heart. Whether they were spoiled at that point no longer matters.
We don’t need to parent based on someone’s “your child might be spoiled…..” lists. We can parent knowing, with full confidence that God will help us if we ask. We can parent knowing ultimate wisdom is only a Bible page away. We can parent out of a place of grace rather than regret or fear.
Don’t stress if your child is defined as spoiled by an arbitrary list, they might be, but don’t stress about it. Invite God to parent alongside you. Pray like you’ve never prayed before. Study the word as if you’re studying for the most important test of your life (in some ways you are). Depend on his strength, not your own. Ask him to work in spite of your faults and remove impurities.
Trust in Him with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. Depend on HIM! The Bible isn’t lying when it says we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us.
Know that God will help, because He will.
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