"Fat! Lazy! Insensitive! Stupid! Foolish!"
I wish I could say that in the course of my marriage I always let my husband lead, and I willingly followed, but the fact of the matter is I, like most women, tended to act independently. Praise God, there was a true turning point in our marriage.
"No?!" Didn't he realize I was making more money than him? Didn't he realize my earning potential was greater than his? Didn't he realize it was a job that I truly enjoyed?
Our husbands deserve our thanks and praise for all that they do. They deserve us to overlook the socks strewn about or the peanut butter knives left in the sink. They deserve our hugs, affection, and most of all respect.
I truly believe most husbands "rock" and I've tried to avoid specific examples about why mine does because I don't want another woman to read this and sigh wistfully wishing their husband was as wonderful as mine (and he is wonderful). However since it is father's day this weekend I'll close with an example of how my husband shows me love.
Scriptures make it pretty clear that a husband is supposed to lead, but it is also clear he is supposed to love his wife as well. The following example has nothing to do with his leadership, just an act of love for me and our children.
I've been nursing and/or pregnant for almost our entire marriage. I haven't felt myself in almost 4 years. I've been tired beyond belief, If I don't get 9 or ten hours of sleep I'm literally non-functioning the next day. Despite the fact that my husband stays up late trying to complete his schooling for ordination, despite the fact he needs to get up early the next day, he is the one to get up and help one of our children in the middle of the night if they're crying (and a night almost never passes when they don't). He doesn't need to be the one doing this, but he does. He does it for me, he does it for them. He does it because he loves us and despite the fact God has designed him to be a leader, he is serving us as well.
In my eyes my husband is a knight in shining armor, daily slaying dragons for our family. The fact of the matter is, if I allowed the world to influence my thoughts on this wonderful man I might not feel the same way. So much of our life if just simple perception. I choose to perceive my husband the way God does: a man who is saved by God's grace; who is trying his best to lead and love; who is trying to follow after God with all his heart; and who truly desires what is best for his family.
Happy Father's Day to A Husband who Rocks!