I was going to post a recipe today but my test run turned out just plain awful. No matter how much the morning show hosts smile on TV when they try black bean brownies don't believe them, they're horrible!
I'm so grateful for the godly counsel I received before going into marriage. Sure there have been some surprises, no one ever told me for example that the way my husband loads the dishwasher would make me want to pull my hair out! (praise God he's willing to load it, so I've learned not to complain) I was however aware going in to marriage that feelings change over time and was advised, by many, never to rely on feelings because they are not the basis of a good marriage.
It deeply saddens me to read pieces like this New York Times article. A celebration of 2 individuals who decided to rely on their feelings rather than their vows. In case you haven't heard the story about the Riddell and Partilla wedding announcement, they openly admitted they fell in love with each other while married to other people. Rather than being shamed by their affair they openly celebrate the "uncontrollable feelings" that ruined 2 marriages.
Jeremiah 7:19 comes to mind on this subject:
" The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"
I truly wish these two families the best, I hope that all parties can learn to forgive one another and the children do not have to suffer through another divorce. However all the pain involved could have been avoided if the couple would have chosen to celebrate their former marriages rather than the "feelings" they had for each other. Unfortunately if they haven't learned their lesson nothing will stop their feelings from getting in the way again in this marriage.
What's incredibly sad is that so many people of my generation have bought into the notion that we each have one soul-mate out there waiting for us. The moment we're married and our "feelings" begin to change it's easy to panic and say, "Oh my gosh! I've missed my soul-mate! This wasn't the right person for me!" Leading one to choose the path of divorce. Sadly this happens all too often. Our daily choices make a marriage not our feelings.
For the record, my marriage at the moment is perfectly happy. The only thing that brought this article to mind was reading this blog post. I was so impressed with what Matt Kaufman wrote that I just had to give my 2 cents on the matter.